Google relationship quotes and you will end up with enough inspirational sayings to keep you reading for a lifetime. You will find quote after quote about how grand relationships are and many will even tell you the truth, which is that grand relationships take a lot of work. Healthy bonds in a relationship must first be established but following their establishment they must be maintained.
What do Healthy Relationship Bonds Look Like?
It is important to take a quick aside to paint a picture of what healthy bonds in a relationship look like typically. Healthy bonds serve to create an atmosphere of mutual respect between the individuals in a relationship. Healthy bonds aim to establish appropriate safety inside of the relationship. Healthy bonds are established through boundaries which serve to enable each person in the relationship to perform their roles appropriately.
Maintaining Healthy Relationship Bonds
The work we put into our relationships to maintain these healthy bonds all involve aiding the growth of mutual respect and safety through appropriate boundaries. The maintenance of healthy bonds in a relationship involves constant openness. Depending on the type of relationship the degree of openness will vary. For example, you would not be as open with your boss about your personal matters as you would with your partner. Openness does not equate to sharing your every thought but rather implies that the important things are communicated within the relationship. Openness also means that there is room within the relationship for the other party to do the same sharing.
Healthy relationships are also maintained by being adaptable to growth and change. Adaptability generally comes from the renegotiation of boundaries and continued communication on issues of comfort. For instance, if once upon a time when you were young and single working late a few nights a week was no big deal, but now that you have a family you are no longer comfortable with working late as frequently. A renegotiation of work boundaries would need to take place with your boss, communicating that now you are only comfortable with working late one night a week.
Awareness of self and the other individual participating in the relationship is also essential to maintaining bonds. Awareness is being able to identify what is going on within you, with the other party, and within the relationship. Awareness is not mindreading or self-prescribing issues/fixes. Awareness looks like checking-in by asking questions, sharing activities, quality time, and intentionality. When we are intentional with our time in our relationships, we establish a certain degree of knowing within the relationship. This can look like when you grab lunch with a friend, and you get curious about how life has been treating them lately, you are actively putting in effort to stay aware.
How Can Central Arkansas Group Counseling Help?
Relationships require work. With that being said, healthy connection to others has the ability to intensely change the world for good—so let’s get to work! At Central Arkansas Group Counseling, we offer couples therapy in addition to inidviual and group counseling sessions. Working with a counselor can help you and your partner develop and maintain relationship bonds, set boundaries, improve communication, and thrive together. Get started today by contacting us in Benton or North Little Rock.
Sarah Vinson, LAC